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The Silent Treatment

byKylie Kristeen/June 5, 2024

Let’s talk childhood…

I don’t know what it was like for you growing up, but I was a pretty well-behaved kid. Weird for the second born – we’re supposed to be more of the troublemakers, but I felt like I had to always do the right thing. Which I did. Mostly. 

My mom was a stay-at-home mom for much of my childhood, so she was the first person to deal with us when we messed up. And when mom was mad, she used her words. She left nothing to the imagination, she communicated her feelings accurately and precisely and sometimes loudly. But when dad got involved, there were only 3 words: I’m so disappointed. Ouch.

I can remember getting in trouble for lying. Not for the first time. I had to be around 10 years old, and I had this little plaque up in my room with my name on it and a description of its Christian meaning: integrity. So I got caught in a lie and mom pointed to that plaque and asked, “Do you think you deserve to have that plaque on your wall?” followed by: “Wait till your father gets home.”

Silence can be deafening sometimes, especially when it comes from someone who is supposed to be your anchor.

I sat uncomfortably in my room the rest of the afternoon, praying that my dad not say those three words. Then the door to my bedroom opened, and my father entered the room. Silently. Not a glance in my direction, as he walked over to that plaque on the wall, took it down, and left the room. Not a word was spoken. I’d already heard everything there was to hear. It was time for action. I had been praying, “God, I don’t want to hear my dad say he’s disappointed!” But it turns out that hearing nothing was much worse. 

That’s how I learned my lesson. If anything I’m probably a little too honest nowadays. And I’ve learned that not everyone had the parents I did, so not everyone would have the same reaction I did to my father’s silence. The reason that moment was so impactful for me was because it was rare. My parents were not distant. And they were rarely silent. 

Silence can be deafening sometimes, especially when it comes from someone who is supposed to be your anchor. The Israelites experienced this too in Amos 8. 

“The time is surely coming,” says the Sovereign Lord, “when I will send a famine on the land—not a famine of bread or water but of hearing the words of the Lord.

“The time is surely coming,” says the Sovereign Lord,

    “when I will send a famine on the land—

not a famine of bread or water

    but of hearing the words of the Lord.

(Amos 8:11, NLT)

This is speaking about a time to come, when God would give them the silent treatment. They broke the covenant God had made with his people. They were unfaithful to Him, and as a result, there was a pronouncement of judgment on the people in chapter 6.

In keeping with that courtroom analogy – and I happened to have recently completed jury duty, so I’m completely qualified to use this legal jargon. What we have here is a judgment rendered, so it’s time for the Judge to sentence the people for their crimes. That’s chapter 8.

And the crimes they committed sound awful, right? Cheating people, mocking them, completely devaluing and dehumanizing them… how could someone do that? Well, the issue was their unfaithfulness to God. The mistreatment of people was just the means by which they were unfaithful. So let’s be honest here… we’re not that far off. 

Sometimes, we would rather ignore the reality of how God calls us to live than to disrupt the lives we’ve built for ourselves. 

Sometimes, we would rather ignore the reality of how God calls us to live than to disrupt the lives we’ve built for ourselves. 

Maybe you – like the Israelites – can even look back and see that God has been trying to get your attention. See, God doesn’t just start with the silent treatment. He had tried other things. He even sent plagues like He did with the Egyptians, but still they would not turn to Him. 

I find it really interesting that Pharaoh’s heart eventually softened with the plagues, but God’s own people? They weren’t moved. Like, you know better. And you’re still choosing your own comfort and ease when you know He has called you to a higher life that is so much better than what you can offer yourself. 

A famine hearing the words of the Lord. What does that actually mean? What did the words of the Lord do for the people at this time? “Word” here actually has a few different connotations to it. It means word of command, advice, counsel, promise. For the Israelites, a word from God brought comfort, guidance, direction, next steps. This is what would be removed. 

People will stagger from sea to sea and wander from border to border searching for the word of the LORD, but they will not find it.

We see this illustrated in verse 12: People will stagger from sea to sea and wander from border to border searching for the word of the LORD, but they will not find it. Stagger and wander. These are not terms of certainty. This is what you do when you don’t know what you’re doing. You stagger about, hoping you don’t lose your footing and fall down. You wander from place to place hoping to find comfort in a place of desolation. 

But I actually think the impact of losing God’s words might be best illustrated in verse 10: 

I will turn your celebrations into times of mourning

    and your singing into weeping.

You will wear funeral clothes

    and shave your heads to show your sorrow—

as if your only son had died.

    How very bitter that day will be!

As if your only son had died. The role of a son is to carry on the family line, which was important to Amos’ audience, to the point that if a man died without producing a son, his brother was responsible for giving the widow a child, and that child was considered the offspring of the dead brother. 

God always keeps His Covenant. He will always fulfill His purpose.

Preserving the family line mattered because the covenant made with Abraham only extended to his descendants. They were God’s chosen people so the loss of an only son would be a potential end to that family line. And now verse 11 says there’s actually something worse coming for them. 

The only thing worse than an ending is an ending without the promise of a new beginning, and that’s how it feels when God goes silent. Amos is warning them of a time when judgment would be rendered, and those who survived would go on for 400 years of silence from their God. 400 years of exile. Generations would live and die without ever hearing a word from God.

And yet, the purposes of God still had to be fulfilled. God always keeps His Covenant. He will always fulfill His purpose. So after those 400 years, the next time God sent His word forth, it would change everything. 

How’s that for a cliffhanger? See you next week…

Continue the conversation with the Word: Amos 6 & 8

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